Think I am done with sweet 16 and school dances..Modern Technology????

Calash

Coastal Music Services
:(Hi there everyone....Happy Fall. This is it, modern technology has gotten the best of me. Did a MS dance several weeks ago, and during the second hour of the dance I sensed something was wrong. Come to find out, 5 girls were cyberbullying and thus ended up being banned from dances the rest of the year. Kids were leaving the cafe, going to the restrooms, and screwing around. Attendance was not that high. Did a sweet 16 Saturday..They texted requests, some of which the birthday girls mother said "do not play if no clean version". I had a killer laser show, projector with Happy Birthday for selfies, and played he songs on the list she requested ahead of time. Dance was until 10, most were heading out by 9:30. Come to find out, they were having another party after I was done. The birthday girl along with her parents were happy with my services, but asked around 8:30, whats going on, don't these kids know how to dance? Is this now typical considering cells and social media? Any feedback or suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks, Nancy from CMS
 

Bill_Goode

Mobile Beat Moderator
Staff member
I have seen this with some high school dances I have been doing. Four hour block, we get maybe three hours of dancing, and all are gone 15 minutes before the end of the show.

I think it's more of a social scene than a dance. Dancing still happens, but it's more about being there than being an active participant.
 

djdenno

Member
I DJ'd a sweet 16 about two months ago. To be honest, it was pretty awesome! The kids danced for the entire FOUR & 1/2 hours. In fact, the mom asked me to play the extra half hour. I did and the kids had a blast. I think using the word "dance" in front of anything can have a negative connotation. Making the event a social or a "club night" can make it seem "cooler" than a dance. IMO.
 

DJSTEVEZ

DJ Emeritus
:(Hi there everyone....Happy Fall. This is it, modern technology has gotten the best of me. Did a MS dance several weeks ago, and during the second hour of the dance I sensed something was wrong. Come to find out, 5 girls were cyberbullying and thus ended up being banned from dances the rest of the year. Kids were leaving the cafe, going to the restrooms, and screwing around. Attendance was not that high. Did a sweet 16 Saturday..They texted requests, some of which the birthday girls mother said "do not play if no clean version". I had a killer laser show, projector with Happy Birthday for selfies, and played he songs on the list she requested ahead of time. Dance was until 10, most were heading out by 9:30. Come to find out, they were having another party after I was done. The birthday girl along with her parents were happy with my services, but asked around 8:30, whats going on, don't these kids know how to dance? Is this now typical considering cells and social media? Any feedback or suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks, Nancy from CMS

What did you do to ENGAGE the kids?
Back in the day we specialized in Bar/Bat Mitzvahs and did a lot of Sweet 16s & School Dances.
You can't approach this with a "If I Build It, They Will Come" attitude.
Teens feel super awkward at these types of affairs. You need icebreakers & participation dances to lure them in and get them comfortable.
 

Calash

Coastal Music Services
Thanks for the feedback everyone. DJ Steve...I brought some Ice Breaker games that I have used at other Mitzvahs, and I also asked the b-day girl if she wanted me to each some party dances. I told the parents ahead of time as well that I could do this, but no one was interested. :(
 

Ausumm

Active Member
Brides are fickle enough...pre-teens, teens and tweens are worse.
I didn't understand kids of that age when I "had" three of my own in the house.

Fortunately, I have always steered away from events for the younger crowd.

I always hated:
the prep work with finding clean versions of songs...
only getting requests for songs I couldn't play or songs you can't actually DANCE to...
kids causing trouble in a hundred different ways...
and issues with the staff and chaperones expecting ME to help them avoid a catastrophe when they do.
Not to mention that schools simply don't have a decent budget for such things any more.
 

NickyB

Gear and Equipment Moderator
I have gotten away from "kids events" and just about all "first time weddings" completely. Now that I've hit retirement age, I work
primarily for the 55+ communities here in Florida. Not working as much as I used too, but I'm happy to be enjoying life .... I'm in
the computer club passing my 40 yrs with NASA knowledge on and playing a lot of golf and swimming. I workout at the community
gym twice a week mostly doing cardio stuff.
 
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