I always wear a a Tuxedo, with varied coloring of vests and ties, to suit my mood and the Bridal party.
There are occasions where I've been asked to not dress formal, and happy to oblige.
Like my time in the military, I was proud to wear my uniform to go do my job, and I feel the same way about a Tuxedo. It's my work uniform, and I love it, and based on my year thus far, neither my Tux or I are going out of style
And my tux is way more comfortable than any suit I've ever tried on. When I put on my "uniform", I feel just like I did when I served, proud, ready, and willing to do whatever it took to get my job done. I feel like I belong. I do nto get that feeling without a tux. Weird maybe, sure, but I embrace that weirdness, if so labelled.
When Bridal party men stop wearing tuxes to dress for the event, so will I.
I've no issue, complaint, or inclination of any sort(Don't care) for how anyone else decides to do this. TOTALLY up to them and their comfort level.
Insofar as being taken for a member of the staff, Sure that happens, but the key in not allowing that to bother you really depends on your ability to think on your feet and be elegant about redirecting the guest appropriately. GRaceful replies abound, and humor always solves that.
Hypothetical follows:
"Sure I can get you a drink, but you'll have to DJ this next song! (laugh with them) How about I get a staff member to take care of that for you before this tune runs out?"
And do this with a smile, whatever the situation. Guests don't neccessarily know who's a member of staff and not.
Consider DJ's that have long term contracts with venues. They ARE a member of the staff
