How do you dress at a wedding

I have seen way to many poorly dressed DJ photos already. But I'm a huge fan of looking professional. And I know there are tons of other DJ's that feel the same. Lets post pics of how we dress at weddings. Just recently I changed one thing about my wife and my dress. Instead of a white shirt we went with the exact shirt but in black. I love it and it was all because I saw another DJ on one of the boards with a similar outfit but done in black. I'm always willing to do things better. I have to say that I thought the photographer did a great Job at the wedding. Though I did add a filter on the photo for my website.

Weddings are formal affairs, so (if after 6) every man should
be in black tie.
I've never been to a wedding like that. I think most brides think tuxes are a uniform for the wedding party only.

Anyway, I wore a tux while doing weddings, but I retired from weddings years ago.

Tuxes have been out of fashion for a while now. With a tux you look too much like part of the food or beverage staff. Wear something that suits your style that is considered formal as well. I wear slacks, dress shoes, dress shirt and a tie and sometimes a vest but not a sparkly one. Something of a solid color. That works for me. I've seen guys wear fashionable sneakers, suspenders, fedora's etc. It's about style as much as it is professionalism these days IMO. Everyone is different though.

Out of fashion? Don't tell me that, I just had a tux custom made for me last week when I was in Shanghai (seriously!).

A classic cut tuxedo will NEVER be out of fashion.

There are certain fashion staples that remain no matter what, and the tuxedo is one of them... some trendy bits of them come and go, (single-breasted, double-breasted, bow tie, long tie, collar buttons, etc), but the basic well-tailored tuxedo will never go away. Here's a pic from last week, I'm in an After Six double-breasted with my tie matching the wedding party.

(pardon the pixelating, I was adjusting the levels on the greenscreen with this shot)

Italian made dark color suit, cuff links, clean black shoes, white shirt, no tie. Im lookin smooth.

3 suits. Dark, gray, and brown. I dress to match the wedding party, including a reasonable job to have my tie match their wedding colors. A simple vest, too.
The less I look like a blackjack dealer, the better.

Let's not speak about opinions for a moment, and let's look at trends.

This topic comes up about every 18 months or so (usually among those few who survived the most recent "sit vs. stand" blood war, lol). Many DJ's have tired of wearing a Tuxedo, probably d/t being confused with wait staff, and opted for a respectful variation on the Tux, a sharp suit, or jacket & tie ensemble. The 2 biggest industry leading outfits on the forum have ditched the Tuxedo in favor of a fresher, cleaner, more user friendly look.


OK, back to opinions:
I've seen pictures of the alternative DJ wear for Formal occasions and IMHO they are MORE than appropriate, respectful, classy & stylish. On the other hand, there's nothing wrong with sticking with a Tux either if that's with which you are most comfortable. I have a microfiber Tux that is possibly one of the most comfortable things to wear that I own. I prefer to wear that with an open collar of any one of a variety of Tux shirts.

For me, I ask my clients about the expectations they have for my attire on their special day. Most don't know how to answer the question, so I usually give them options. The overwhelmingly most common answer I get is "Wear whatever makes you the most comfortable". We all have our opinions, and they're not mutually exclusive to being correct necessarily, but to me at least, it makes the most sense to make sure the client is Ok with my choices.

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I always wear a a Tuxedo, with varied coloring of vests and ties, to suit my mood and the Bridal party.

There are occasions where I've been asked to not dress formal, and happy to oblige.

Like my time in the military, I was proud to wear my uniform to go do my job, and I feel the same way about a Tuxedo. It's my work uniform, and I love it, and based on my year thus far, neither my Tux or I are going out of style

And my tux is way more comfortable than any suit I've ever tried on. When I put on my "uniform", I feel just like I did when I served, proud, ready, and willing to do whatever it took to get my job done. I feel like I belong. I do nto get that feeling without a tux. Weird maybe, sure, but I embrace that weirdness, if so labelled.

When Bridal party men stop wearing tuxes to dress for the event, so will I.

I've no issue, complaint, or inclination of any sort(Don't care) for how anyone else decides to do this. TOTALLY up to them and their comfort level.

Insofar as being taken for a member of the staff, Sure that happens, but the key in not allowing that to bother you really depends on your ability to think on your feet and be elegant about redirecting the guest appropriately. GRaceful replies abound, and humor always solves that.

Hypothetical follows:

"Sure I can get you a drink, but you'll have to DJ this next song! (laugh with them) How about I get a staff member to take care of that for you before this tune runs out?"

And do this with a smile, whatever the situation. Guests don't neccessarily know who's a member of staff and not.

Consider DJ's that have long term contracts with venues. They ARE a member of the staff

Unless the client specifically tells me otherwise: tuxedo.
I've had a trade deal with the local formal wear shop since the early 80's.
I always go with a full-back vest and straight tie (no cumberbund or bowtie)
So I can make it appear less formal if need be.

I think for the most part the DJ's here will dress the part & look clean and professional.

But what's up with some of these photographers ( women ) I have been running into lately ?? Wow, talk about slobs.....

I don't care how hot it is at a wedding, lose the beach sandals & flip flops ! Cover your ugly toes ! lol

How do I dress at a Wedding...

One pant leg at a time.... One pant leg at time... just like everyone else.

lil just one of the little people (no i'm not) jimmy

ninodj said:

But what's up with some of these photographers ( women ) I have been running into lately ?? Wow, talk about slobs.....I don't care how hot it is at a wedding, lose the beach sandals & flip flops

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yes, Yes, YES! Exactly!

Suit and tie or a tuxedo. Clients choice on my planner. I try to complement the wedding colors if the look feels right, if not, I go MR. Penguin style.

Look at James Bond (or Jack from 30 Rock after 6 PM) - yes a tux is timeless, classic, flattering, and appropriate for an MC/ Entertainer at a formal event.
So all of you tux guys - looking good. Bow tie or strait SKINNY black tie, please.

With that said, I personally have never worn a tux, and the guys ditched the tux look a few years ago for a suit.

Here's a picture (that we didn't use! ha ha) from a photo shoot last fall.......

I really was having fun ;-)


P.S. I hear you loud and clear about the toes, and will TRY to wear shoes this summer but I am guilty guilty guilty of the toe thing - my feet get hot! Sorry ....

We wear stylish dark suit or tuxedo. Both need to be today's fashions. We discuss this with the bride and groom. It's about 50/50. The problem is some DJs buy a cheap tux and use it for years. They can make the same mistake with a suit.

As others have mentioned, if you think all tux's are out of fashion, you are mistaken. If your tux makes you look like a waiter, it's because of the style you chose.

Has anyone ever mistaken the father of the bride for a waiter?

Just because your powder blue tux when out of style years ago, doesn't make today's tux's out of style.

jodi said:

Look at James Bond (or Jack from 30 Rock after 6 PM) - yes a tux is timeless, classic, flattering, and appropriate for an MC/ Entertainer at a formal event.
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That's right --- we're not farmers!

ninodj said:

But what's up with some of these photographers ( women ) I have been running into lately ?? Wow, talk about slobs.....
I don't care how hot it is at a wedding, lose the beach sandals & flip flops ! Cover your ugly toes ! lol

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jodi said:

P.S. I hear you loud and clear about the toes, and will TRY to wear shoes this summer but I am guilty guilty guilty of the toe thing - my feet get hot! Sorry ....

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Now, now....I think in all fairness to the Women,
there is a world of difference between punishing the public by airing out 2 funky & neglected hoofs in $3.99 flip-flops, A-N-D
proudly donning a pair of finely cared for, freshly pedicured Tootsies, showcased in appropriate footwear apparel.

I would imagine that Jodi only does the latter.

Mark Bloom said:

That's right --- we're not farmers!

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DJSTEVEZ said:

Now, now....I think in all fairness to the Women,
there is a world of difference between punishing the public by airing out 2 funky & neglected hoofs in $3.99 flip-flops, A-N-D
proudly donning a pair of finely cared for, freshly pedicured Tootsies, showcased in appropriate footwear apparel.

I would imagine that Jodi only does the latter.

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Hmmmm - a pedicure? That's a good idea..... So, from here on out, only funky songs, not funky tootsies the rest of the summer! (Makes me think of Get up Get Down Get Funky Get Loose by Teddy Pendagrass - talk about old school!)